A recurring theme in my life has been the belief that I only had myself. I didn’t know what it was like to have a rock-solid support system during difficult times, so I learned early on that I would have to figure things out alone. Over time, that belief became less of a coping mechanism […]
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Growing up, perfectionism and hard work were revered in my home. The unspoken rule was simple: if you do something, do it “right” or don’t do it at all. There was very little room for error. And if a mistake happened, I hoped, almost prayed, that it would go unnoticed. That kind of environment doesn’t
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I have a move coming up in less than a week. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve moved in my life, but it’s a number that’s almost half my age. In just the last four years, I’ve moved three times. Relocation, for better or worse, has been one of the constants in my
There are moments when something from the past resurfaces out of nowhere. There is no clear trigger or obvious reason for it; nevertheless, it’s a memory that is vivid enough to pull you back in time and make you feel something you thought you had moved past. That happened to me this past week. At
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Do you ever procrastinate even when you know how much better you’ll feel once the thing is done? But you still delay it, avoid it, and find multiple excuses to do it at a better time. Over the last couple of weeks, I found myself in exactly that place. I dug my heels in about
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I stood in the laundry room holding a damp shirt and crying like something catastrophic had happened. It was my husband’s favorite shirt. I had ruined it in the wash. He wasn’t angry. He wasn’t upset. He has never once made me feel small over a mistake like that. He is kind. He is forgiving.
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“Be strong. This is life. You’ll have to learn to fight.” “You can’t be so sensitive.” If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of statements like these, you know how hollow they can feel. I’ve heard them many times myself. Most days, I can brush them off. But there are moments in life when
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For many years, until fairly recently, I believed in certain superstitions I grew up around. Even when a part of me questioned them, a bigger part of me followed them without protesting. Life already felt hard enough, and I didn’t want to risk making it harder. In hindsight, I can see that this wasn’t intuition
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When I was a child, there was an incident that upset me deeply. It’s one that stayed with me for a long time. My parents and I were out for dinner with family friends and their children. In this week’s blog, I share what followed: misbehavior, accusations, and lies. This story matters, because I hope
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I’ve never really believed in New Year’s resolutions. The few times I tried to make them, they felt disconnected, almost phony. I never understood why we wait for one year to end and another to begin before giving ourselves permission to change. I believe growth can happen the moment we decide it matters. That said,
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