Last week, I went through a major change in my personal life. As I geared up for this transition, I felt more anxious than excited. The fear and worries kicked in full force, and I didn’t quite know how to explain my feelings to anyone. The inner turmoil worsened until I finally had a chat with some loved ones around me. In this week’s blog, I pass on those wise words that were shared with me to manage change and embrace the future. None of the advice will seem foreign to you, so, more than anything, consider it to be a reminder on how to make the most of life regardless of your circumstances.
Accept
To accept what is in my control and let the rest go was one of the main pieces of advice I received. Among all the encouraging words, this recommendation stuck out. I’ve given myself this same pep talk on numerous occasions, but it was eclipsed by my concerns.
When we panic, it is natural to want to control everything around us, especially the people and instances that are completely beyond our control. This push and pull intensifies the negative emotions, which, in turn, worsens the anxiety and frustration. I was experiencing this exact pattern, so the suggestion to accept and act accordingly was much needed.
As I paid heed to the above, I felt so much lighter and at peace. Being mindful of my sphere of control helped put an end to the overthinking.
Choice
In any situation, we have a choice to make. We can choose to be happy or miserable, and I was choosing the latter as I allowed the negative thoughts to prevail. I had to be reminded of this power in me, so I could do what was best for me. The desire to be happy came from within, and it was not fake nor forced, because it was a conscious decision on my part. I reckoned that there would be ups and downs, but I had to allow myself to choose wisely in those times, because there is always a choice.
When the going gets tough, we have to sit ourselves down and have an honest chat. It is only when we get candid with ourselves that we gain clarity and perspective. Through choice, we untangle the web of false beliefs and fears to reveal possibilities and positivity.
Faith
When I am deep in the valley, I forget the importance of having faith. I lose track of all the times that I’ve gotten by and thanked my lucky stars. I forget how the universe has shown up and guided me. As I shared my concerns with my family, I was reminded to keep believing in myself. In that instance, I realized that I had to stop self-sabotaging no matter how comfortable and predictable it felt. I tapped into the power of faith, took a few deep breaths, and overcame the doubts. I believed and understood that as long as I gave my best shot, I would be fine.
Believing in ourselves is knowing that no matter what happens, we will survive. We may be bruised and hurt, but we will be all right.
Solutions
In times of uncertainty, it’s easiest to find fault with everything. Instead of seeking solutions and a way out, we expel our energy and focus on all that is going wrong or will go awry. I was so wrapped up in how I wouldn’t be able to do justice to my priorities that I lost sight of possibilities. During my conversations, it dawned on me that I was giving more credence to the problems than viable solutions. I had to turn that thought process on its head and find answers instead of piling on questions.
Solutions come when we are ready for them, and when the mind is quiet. The first step towards doing will automatically feel like a step towards a solution. Slowing down and putting one foot in front of the other will lead to answers and coherence.
Teamwork
I forget to lean on my support system even when I am surrounded by them in flesh. I have loved ones halfway across the world, but I also have my army of family and friends right here. All I have to do is tell them that I’m struggling and that I need help. Even this time, I was warmly reminded that there are people who want to see me happy. These individuals will do everything in their power to help me as long as I ask for and accept their assistance.
You and I don’t have to do it all on our own. It is encouraged to give others a chance to show us their love, because we are deserving of this love and support. This support system doesn’t solely consist of family; it also involves friends across the world, colleagues, and even kind strangers.
Patience
The never-ending lesson of my life is being patient and letting life unfold. In my tough moments, no matter how far I’ve come, I can’t wait to get somewhere else. I lose track of the journey because I am so concerned about getting to my destination. I was reminded that what I have today is a result of prayers of the past, so I owe it to myself to enjoy today and what it offers before I hurry up to the next best thing. Being patient with myself is a true expression of self-love where I treat myself with grace and kindness to allow for transitions and growth.
Given time and patience, life has a way of working out for the best. We cannot forget that everything falls into place eventually.
The past week was nerve-wracking and joyful, but most of all, it was full of hope and gratitude. I got married surrounded by unconditional love and peace. I am aware that my fears were a result of past experiences, but they were put to rest with the advice I received. During vulnerable times, these pearls of wisdom might be forgotten; therefore, I am here to remind you that you’ve got this, and things will work out.
As always, I am here to support you all the way, my brave soul. I hope you keep in touch with your stories, thoughts, and feedback. If you wish to learn more, please stop by www.imperfectbodies.com. Lastly, if you enjoyed this information, then please share it with others.
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All the best,
Chaitni